very much a “don’t look at me you’re hurting me just go away” message.

Some years back in my late twenties I took a series of cross-country flights on Southwest, the airline that famoulsy doesn’t assign seats. Lady Luck smiled at me on that trip, finding me an empty seat next to a very cute girl on each leg of the flight. I opened each girl.

Girl one: very receptive, long fun convo for a four hour flight. I didn’t number-close because she was too young (teen) traveling with her parents. Girl two on the next flight: gave me that “F.-off” look so no conversation with her. Girl three: receptive to my opening, fun covo, number-close.

The moral of the story is that with “always be opening” you’re accepting a failure rate, while practicing the right opening. Our Host’s examples above all show fun/teasing openings. And simple ones like “Hi!”

You’ll notice that no openings do what Mystery calls “forcing rapport,” or rushing the comfort stage before attraction is established.


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